Later today, my cousin and I was being visited by my cousin’s parents. Well actually they visited my cousin and I tagged along to all the dining places :3
And then my uncle asked? So, Lika? What are the differences that you spot when you’re here? I mean, compared to your hometown?
I only thought for a few moments to answer it. And I will summarize it here.
You see, a good friend of mine from Singapore once said: once you get into another culture and environment, you can’t help but to make comparisons and then probably to decide which one’s better at one aspect and vice versa. He was totally right, though I’ve only realized that’s the one thing that I have been constantly doing since I came here, to Jogja, like 3 years ago. Damn I’m old hahaa :))
So that’s why it only took seconds for me to answer my uncle.
Let’s say that my college-city is a tea while my hometown is a..well…soda, perhaps.
Here, I found modesty and delicacy that I rarely find in my hometown. But the modesty and delicacy doesn’t come with inferiority. And that’s just amazing. The things shown in the surface is not as important as the person you are inside, the quality that are truly matters. Although at the same time, politeness is indeed a MUST. Well at least for first meetings, that is :p
I don’t say that the culture in my hometown don’t show those qualities, really that’s not what I meant. But I cannot help but to say that there are some kind of diversities between one group of people and another more than I’ve been going through in my college years. Diversities, which can be based of things that I bet you can guess what.
Also, I can say that back in my hometown, people were more frank, more straightforward. You don’t like someone, you can say it straightforwardly. And I think that’s how you settle things with people. Whilst here, in Jogja, politeness does comes first and sometimes they don’t wanna argue in front of your face or saying things frankly right at the moment the ‘incidents’ occur. But rather they will talk with other people about it, and that doesn’t mean that they will say it to you afterwards :p perhaps they will come to a conclusion that it’s better not to say it to the person being the object of the matter.
And I don’t know whether it has something to do with the fact that in this Special Region they still have the king which all of the people obey and love, but I do find that people here, in Jogja, more seldom to talk about their governments while, well, I’m sure you can hear all the people in my hometown criticizing their governments on every corner of the streets.
You see, the differences between the two cities, between the cup of tea and a glass of soda, is not exactly about right or wrong. Let’s say that it’s totally fine to truly believe in inner beauties, but at the same time it’s not wrong at all to polish yourself more, to express yourself in the matter of outer physical stuff.
Being straightforward indeed can settle matters at that very moment, but perhaps it’s also quite risky, to think that people are more emotional right after any incidents or problems occur, right? Yet then again, discussing about problems without shoving it to the person being discussed’s face will not settle any matter straight.
Same goes to the criticizing things. Only complaining while not doing anything (which most people do when it comes to talking about our own governments) will be useless, so why still complaining? And yet, isn’t it the sign of democracy and perhaps a sign of self-involvement in how our nation being led?
Yes, a cup of tea is indeed healthy, warm, and stable. But a glass of soda is needed too, to remind us that being stable probably not the best way to lead our ways. Although perhaps the latter is more about desire than need. But what’s living anyway without desire?